Growing Up Types – Who Blamed You?

Adult Wisdom – Blaming other people for your problems will keep the problems around.  Do you know people that always blame other people for their problems? Nothing that happens to them is ever their fault, they won't admit to being any part of the problem.  The Monarch butterfly has to migrates 2500 miles in the winter to Mexico or California for two reasons. They cannot withstand freezing weather in the northern and central continental climates in the winter. Also, the larval food plants does not grow in Mexico or California, so the spring generation must fly back north to places where the plants are plentiful. If this butterfly decides not to migrate because they do not want to travel 2500 miles one way in the winter and another 2500 miles back in the spring, that decision will cause them to start to die of the cold temperatures in their northern feeding grounds or of starvation in the warm climate of Mexico or California.  Whose fault is that? If a butterfly want to be successful in its reproduction process it have to take the responsibility of its decisions. Either one of these decisions can be disaster or life for them, therefore they must make the decision to migrate to survive. If they do not they cannot blame anyone but themselves for the results.  Blaming other people is immature and you cannot get adult results with immature actions.

Growing Up Types: Too Many I’s

CV White Quote: "If I's could see how great would our vision be, but since they can't the lose of sight and insight is equally great"

How many I's (eyes) can you find on this butterfly’s wing? These eyes are not real, they cannot see anything, and they are used to fool predators (take the focus off the butterfly) that want to eat the butterfly for lunch or dinner. Sometimes it works and sometimes it does not work, but that is not what we have in mind when we use too many I’s such as “I don’t like this, I am not, etc., I is not an eye and I cannot see a thing, the purpose of using I’s instead of eyes is to put the focus on self, to shift the control of what is happening in our favor, but why not be like the butterfly and just be seen without speaking the extra I’s? You may find the trouble fading away because your focus is centered on getting the problem solved and not on yourself.

Growing Up Types – Protect Your Heart from Hurt

Adult Wisdom -  If you want to get to the heart of a matter you have to first know something about your own heart. Looking at someone else’s heart is a path of never getting to the matter at hand.  According to Nelsons and Unger's Bible Dictionaries "YOUR HEART" is the inner self that thinks, feels, and decides. The heart is also the center of the feelings and affections: of joy; of pain; and all degrees of ill will of dissatisfaction from anxiety to despair; all degrees of fear, from reverential trembling; the center of the moral life; so that all moral conditions, from the highest love of God even down to the self-deifying pride, darkening, and hardening are concentrated in the heart as the innermost life circle of humanity. The heart is the laboratory and origin of all that is good and evil in thoughts, words, and deed; the rendezvous of evil lusts and passions; a good or evil treasure the place where God's natural law is written in us as well as the law of grace; the seat of conscience; the field for the seed of the divine word. It is the dwelling place of Christ in us; of the Holy Spirit; of God's peace; the receptacle of the love of God; the closet of secret communion with God and it is the center of the entire man, the very heart of life's impulse. So you see, it is all about you, never about the other person. You have to protect and guard your own heart, no other person can do that for you. Whatever is in your heart is going to come out of your mouth. Consider making sure that you only allow those things in your heart that you don't mind coming out of your mouth.

Growing Up Types --- Never Give UP

"Have you ever wanted to give up? Remember, the darkest hour is just before dawn and when that happens it’s coming out time not giving up time. Don’t give up, just come on out you have made it." Do not submit to things like intimation.  There are five butterflies, notice that each one is at a different stage in their process but they all have the same resolve, never give up because that is not an option for either butterfly.  No matter what your challenge may be you have in you what is needed to make it.  Don't give up.

Growing Up Types --- Choose Your Battles

Adult Wisdom – Some people want to always be right, therefore they will argue with you about things that they care nothing about. They just want to be right and win the argument. You don’t have to argue and start fights, or participate in fights just to always be right but you do have to be clear about the consequences of your choices and decisions. Which one of the two – the butterfly or the caterpillar is going to win the argument of who got to the leaf first? It does not matter which one arrived first, what is important to both is which one can leave without a negative consequence.  It is important that they know what is going to happen when they leave. If the butterfly leaves it may fly to another leaf to eat or lay eggs, therefore it will lose nothing if it leaves; but if the caterpillar leaves it may not get the chance to complete the metamorphosis process to continue its life. So who is right about who got there first has nothing to do with the consequences of leaving.  When you know the consequences of your choices or decisions you can position yourself to follow through the desired process to reach your expected end because what is vitally important to you may not be of any importance to someone else.  Why fight over territory that you cannot leave, remember the one person that you cannot leave is you.  You always have a choice. Choose your battles wisely, do not fight over unimportant things.  Make decisions that add to your life and not decisions that take away from your life or livelihood. Ask yourself, "why do I care about this?" and if it does not add to your life, choose not to care (fight). If you understand this you will fight fewer battles and save yourself troublesome frustrations.