Growing Up Types: Too Many I’s

CV White Quote: "If I's could see how great would our vision be, but since they can't the lose of sight and insight is equally great"

How many I's (eyes) can you find on this butterfly’s wing? These eyes are not real, they cannot see anything, and they are used to fool predators (take the focus off the butterfly) that want to eat the butterfly for lunch or dinner. Sometimes it works and sometimes it does not work, but that is not what we have in mind when we use too many I’s such as “I don’t like this, I am not, etc., I is not an eye and I cannot see a thing, the purpose of using I’s instead of eyes is to put the focus on self, to shift the control of what is happening in our favor, but why not be like the butterfly and just be seen without speaking the extra I’s? You may find the trouble fading away because your focus is centered on getting the problem solved and not on yourself.

Growing Up Types --- Never Give UP

"Have you ever wanted to give up? Remember, the darkest hour is just before dawn and when that happens it’s coming out time not giving up time. Don’t give up, just come on out you have made it." Do not submit to things like intimation.  There are five butterflies, notice that each one is at a different stage in their process but they all have the same resolve, never give up because that is not an option for either butterfly.  No matter what your challenge may be you have in you what is needed to make it.  Don't give up.

Growing Up Types --- Choose Your Battles

Adult Wisdom – Some people want to always be right, therefore they will argue with you about things that they care nothing about. They just want to be right and win the argument. You don’t have to argue and start fights, or participate in fights just to always be right but you do have to be clear about the consequences of your choices and decisions. Which one of the two – the butterfly or the caterpillar is going to win the argument of who got to the leaf first? It does not matter which one arrived first, what is important to both is which one can leave without a negative consequence.  It is important that they know what is going to happen when they leave. If the butterfly leaves it may fly to another leaf to eat or lay eggs, therefore it will lose nothing if it leaves; but if the caterpillar leaves it may not get the chance to complete the metamorphosis process to continue its life. So who is right about who got there first has nothing to do with the consequences of leaving.  When you know the consequences of your choices or decisions you can position yourself to follow through the desired process to reach your expected end because what is vitally important to you may not be of any importance to someone else.  Why fight over territory that you cannot leave, remember the one person that you cannot leave is you.  You always have a choice. Choose your battles wisely, do not fight over unimportant things.  Make decisions that add to your life and not decisions that take away from your life or livelihood. Ask yourself, "why do I care about this?" and if it does not add to your life, choose not to care (fight). If you understand this you will fight fewer battles and save yourself troublesome frustrations.