Growing Up Types --- Choose Your Battles

Adult Wisdom – Some people want to always be right, therefore they will argue with you about things that they care nothing about. They just want to be right and win the argument. You don’t have to argue and start fights, or participate in fights just to always be right but you do have to be clear about the consequences of your choices and decisions. Which one of the two – the butterfly or the caterpillar is going to win the argument of who got to the leaf first? It does not matter which one arrived first, what is important to both is which one can leave without a negative consequence.  It is important that they know what is going to happen when they leave. If the butterfly leaves it may fly to another leaf to eat or lay eggs, therefore it will lose nothing if it leaves; but if the caterpillar leaves it may not get the chance to complete the metamorphosis process to continue its life. So who is right about who got there first has nothing to do with the consequences of leaving.  When you know the consequences of your choices or decisions you can position yourself to follow through the desired process to reach your expected end because what is vitally important to you may not be of any importance to someone else.  Why fight over territory that you cannot leave, remember the one person that you cannot leave is you.  You always have a choice. Choose your battles wisely, do not fight over unimportant things.  Make decisions that add to your life and not decisions that take away from your life or livelihood. Ask yourself, "why do I care about this?" and if it does not add to your life, choose not to care (fight). If you understand this you will fight fewer battles and save yourself troublesome frustrations.

When Does Loan Me Mean Give Me?

Deuteronomy 28:12 - The LORD will open the heavens, the storehouse of his bounty, to send rain on your land in season and to bless all the work of your hands. You will lend too many nations but will borrow from none. NIV

C. V. White Quote: (When you fail to plan financially you plan to go into someone else’s checkbook.)

When Does Loan Me Mean Give Me?

Some people have not learned the difference between a loan and a gift.  Lend me and give me are two different things. The difference is a life skill that should be learned as a child. 

Have you ever heard a child say to a parent loan me a dollar or let me hold a dollar? It may be a different statement depending on what state you live in but for a child it literally means give me.  They know if they say lend me it is different from give me. But they are thinking that they will have a better chance of getting it if they ask for it as if they were going to give it back.  They know that they do not have any income except an allowance if their parents are parents that give allowances if not; they have no way to give it back. Therefore, they know that their parents have that information as well.  If their parents do not teach them the difference between loaning a dollar and giving a dollar, they grow up to be adults with that kind of understanding.  Adults are expected to have the desire to pay back money or any item that they borrow, however persons that were not taught the difference as children, still ask to borrow when they really are asking for it to be given to them.  Once the loan transaction is made they are very relaxed about giving it back if they ever do. 

This is more common among family and friends but some people have this attitude when they borrow from institutions.  If you ask some of them that do this, they may say something like I am not working to pay bills I am working to live.  The truth of the matter is that you are working for the lender if you borrow.  What you are literally saying to a person or to an institution when you borrow is “I am committing my future earning to you and when I get my check you get yours first”. If that is not the understanding that a person has they do not know the difference between borrowing and giving.

Sometimes people will have the money to pay their debts but they do not because they are still operating out of the mind of a child expecting adult results.  The adult reality is that if you go to family and friend too many times to borrow money or anything else and do not make a practice of paying it back they will not continue to loan you things, and when you really want a genuine loan there is not one available. 

Growing Up Is Easy Staying Grown Is Hard

Growing Up Is Easy Staying Grown Is Hard is all about adult behavior that is appropriate for those over 18 years old. The butterflies represent the types of issues that people have when they want to display and operate in childlike behavior but expect adult results.  The butterflies speak to a given behavior or attitude that will help adults overcome some of the small things that keep them occupied and thus not be able to tackle the big issues of life that must be dealt with in a timely manner. The bits of wisdom that is shared come from years of experience, making mistakes, trial and errors and parental and spiritual guidance.

The process of growing up starts when you are born, you get information that helps you with life skills, situations and circumstances so that when you become an adult you are ready for that challenge. How much do people get? How much do people miss? Do you know of adult issues that people don’t understand and need adult wisdom? Do you know people that need simple adult life skills? Do you have wisdom that you can share with the adult population? 

The Butterfly information and photos used in this Blog can be found on www.monarch-butterfly.com.  Please note the copyright on the website for use of the photos. This is a wonderful site to learn about butterflies.