Growing Up Types: The Frustraton Factor

The Frustration Factor

CV White Quote: “People tend to think that everybody is like them and that they want what they want or that they should respond the way they respond. That is certainly not true, but if it were, who can stand that much of themselves?”

Impatience of other people choices, personalities and differences is sometimes fueled by ignoring the differences in a person or a group of people.  When you think of not tolerating the ways of another person or a group of people, do you asked yourself why?  If you do not, you will find yourself frustrated and seriously considering challenging people or persons in areas where change is not going to happen.  Expecting people to respond to you the way they respond to you is the beginning of the development of the impatience factor.

Most people may not like the things that you like and that should be fine with you. But it is usually not because that requires stepping outside of your comfort zone of your general and normal constructed box based on your own personal and behavioral system. Let us look at some examples:

1.    Do you buy gifts for family and friends based on what you like or what they like?  If you do, you may find your gift packed away in a closet waiting for a yard sale. This causes frustration because you were waiting on them to tell you how much they liked the gift when they did not like it at all but you loved it.

2.     Perhaps you have heard someone tell a joke that they thought was extremely funny when they heard it but when they told it nobody laughs. That can be frustrating because you thought that was very funny.

Every person on the planet is different. You should ask them what they want or like before you buy a gift. Or, you can watch them and see if you can find out what they like if you want your gift to be a surprise.  It is OK to be different because everyone is different. But it is not OK for you to expect people to be like you.  This is one frustration that you can get rid of forever if you let people be who they are and you be who you are.

Growing Up Types: Be Teachable

Adult Wisdom – Vicarious Experiences

Be teachable – Adults should not have to pay the price for knowing something that someone else has already learned from their mistakes. I have heard it said by some adults that they have to always learn the hard way and make all of their own mistakes. That person loses a lot of precious time and energy. If someone was giving away a million dollars to you that they worked for, would you turn it down because you did not work for it? If your answer is no then you are probably teachable. This is an adult butterfly, it is beautiful but it would be in great danger if it did not stick to what it knows to do to survive. Being teachable is a great survival tactic.

Growing Up Types: Too Many I’s

CV White Quote: "If I's could see how great would our vision be, but since they can't the lose of sight and insight is equally great"

How many I's (eyes) can you find on this butterfly’s wing? These eyes are not real, they cannot see anything, and they are used to fool predators (take the focus off the butterfly) that want to eat the butterfly for lunch or dinner. Sometimes it works and sometimes it does not work, but that is not what we have in mind when we use too many I’s such as “I don’t like this, I am not, etc., I is not an eye and I cannot see a thing, the purpose of using I’s instead of eyes is to put the focus on self, to shift the control of what is happening in our favor, but why not be like the butterfly and just be seen without speaking the extra I’s? You may find the trouble fading away because your focus is centered on getting the problem solved and not on yourself.

Growing Up Types - LOVE Attitude

If you are not sure about how you should treat people EAGERLY PURSUE and seek to love them - acquire [this] love [make it your aim, your great quest] to love then with no conditions attached.  They do not have to be family, friends or love ones.  They do not have to be nice or good to you.  If they can’t do anything to cause you to love them then they cannot do anything to cause you to stop loving them because you have no conditions attached to your love.

Growing Up Types – Why has your mind stopped you?

Your mindset locks you in or locks you out and the only way you can make progress or get better is to change it. This butterfly is black and white but if its mind is set to think that it is orange and black for whatever reason, the most common reason is “what somebody said”, it is never going to know how beautiful black and white really is until it changes its mind from orange and black and then set it to black and white. When that happens it is going to be at peace with itself and everybody else and it is going to say to itself it is OK to be me. Be honest with you, if you mind is set incorrectly change it.