Growing Up Types --- Value of Commitments

CV White Quote: "Committed people command respect"

Being committed is a vital part of adult success.  If you are not a committed person it interferes with every area of your life.  You also expect commitment from people in your circle of life.  A committed friend, a committed spouse, a committed parent, a committed aunt, a committed uncle, a committed family member, a committed employee, a committed group member, a committed team player, a committed roommate etc., shows that you have the attitude of someone who works very hard to do or support some people, groups, or things.  People are drawn to committed people, they have a tendency to trust them and they are able to get people to follow them into committed areas.  Make sure that you know the challenges that face committed people.  For example, being committed does not mean that you have to be a bad steward and spend carelessly,  if your funds are already committed to family expenses, do not redirect them to other committed activities of less priority.  You should not have to compromise one thing for another they each have a proper place in your life.  Go ahead, commit to something, but make sure you start with you.  Commit to your education, income, wealth, health and the desires of your heart. Caterpillars are committed to becoming a butterfly. They won't change their mind or quit, they are committed to become. 

Take Care of Needs Before Wants

C.V. White Quote: (Spending all you have available to spend on your wants leaves your needs starving and screaming for help, “He who borrows humbles himself before people.”)

Take Care of Needs Before Wants

Adults need certain provisions in order to live comfortably.  They are shelter, clothes, food, transportation, phone and utilities to name a few. These are needs that are necessary.  They are show stoppers and are not something you can just set aside for another opportunity.  People usually, but not always, take care of their needs by becoming gainfully employed.  However, some people fail to understand the adult principle of “first things first” and do not spend their money on the show stoppers. They do not give their money the correct assignment.  They will spend their  income on other things like gadgets, electronics, extra clothes, entertainment or travel. When that happens, they have to go after someone else’s money (borrow) to take care of their needs.  Usually, it is family and friends first and if that fails loans. 

Having to go into someone else’s bank account to take care of your needs, when all you have to do is take care of them first before you did these other things is a childish behavior. That is what children do.  Children will sometimes ask to borrow certain things because they do not understand what borrowing means. They think that it means give me this or that.  They do not have anything to pay it back with because they get all of their assets from their parents, whoever that may be at the time. 

Parents teach them how to ask for things correctly.  Adults must already know how to correctly get the things that they need and want.  They must have the attitude of always being in position to lend money,  not of always needing to borrow it.  They must be good stewards of what comes into their hands. Taking care of your needs is the beginning to building an attitude of abundance that leads to the ability to be able to be the lender not the borrower. It is difficult to get people to help you when they can see that you have not been a good steward over what you have. 

Why should they make the sacrifices they need to make to take care of their show stoppers and then let a person that does not pull from their assets?  Most of the time, they will not help you continually. You may get help one or two times but eventually they will say no and at that point you must learn how to make first things first in your life, especially your finances.