Knowing the End Result Can Help You Make Good Decisions

C. V. White Quote: "One bad act can wipe out years of character building."

Knowing the End Result Can Help You Make Good Decisions

Sometimes it is difficult to see what the end of a decision is going to be if you have no examples of the results of people doing the things that you are about to make a decision to do.  However, there are other times when you can know exactly the end results of a particular decision and yet not think that can happen to you. There is a thin line between wanting and having especially where there is more than one possible outcome. 

For instance, if you do something that you know will cause you some kind of trouble, you may reason that if you get caught you will get special favor and not have to pay the price. However, you realize that there is a price that should be paid and that price is very unpleasant, dangerous or maybe even requires incarceration of some kind.  As an adult, you have to count the cost and decide if you are willing to take the risk of the worst case being the judgment that you will have to face, if it is not then why take the risk. 

Many times people believe that they will get away with some things because they saw or heard of some else getting away with that same thing.  That is a childish attitude; children will sometimes point out to their parents what a sibling, a friend or a neighbor did to get the parents to overlook something that they did wrong.  However, that never works because the parents know that the child has to deal with what they did wrong and get that corrected.  It does not make what was done a right thing to do just because someone else did it.  Therefore, you cannot assume that your judgment for what you do that is bad or evil will get you the same judgment that someone else received good or bad.  You can work on your character for twenty years and commit one bad act and wipe out all of your accomplishment to set your life in the order you desired in one day.  You have twenty years of good character reports and if you need a character reference you can ask almost anyone you know and get a good one. But when you make a decision to do something bad,  thinking that you will not get caught or you will not get the worst end of the deal, you have to count the cost seriously and ask yourself if you want the result that you should get for doing that particular thing. 

If you make the decision to go ahead to do what you planned then you risk losing everything and having to start over, you can’t blame anyone, nor can you point out what someone else did as your defense.  Parents are forgiving of their children because it is their job to teach and train them when they do things that need correcting, but adults are not so forgiving, if you commit the crime they want you to do the time.  Parents are the safety net that children have in place to protect them when they come to them with that foolishness, but adults do not have that safety net in place and what they do will not be overlooked because of what someone else did or did not do. 

Once your character is damaged, you have to now look for someone who likes you and will give you a good character reference based on your relationship with them and not on your character.  Count the cost and make decisions that will keep you out of trouble and move you forward, not decisions that will shut you down or send you backwards.  Your time is valuable so use it wisely and try not to lose it because you think you will not get caught.

Take Care of Needs Before Wants

C.V. White Quote: (Spending all you have available to spend on your wants leaves your needs starving and screaming for help, “He who borrows humbles himself before people.”)

Take Care of Needs Before Wants

Adults need certain provisions in order to live comfortably.  They are shelter, clothes, food, transportation, phone and utilities to name a few. These are needs that are necessary.  They are show stoppers and are not something you can just set aside for another opportunity.  People usually, but not always, take care of their needs by becoming gainfully employed.  However, some people fail to understand the adult principle of “first things first” and do not spend their money on the show stoppers. They do not give their money the correct assignment.  They will spend their  income on other things like gadgets, electronics, extra clothes, entertainment or travel. When that happens, they have to go after someone else’s money (borrow) to take care of their needs.  Usually, it is family and friends first and if that fails loans. 

Having to go into someone else’s bank account to take care of your needs, when all you have to do is take care of them first before you did these other things is a childish behavior. That is what children do.  Children will sometimes ask to borrow certain things because they do not understand what borrowing means. They think that it means give me this or that.  They do not have anything to pay it back with because they get all of their assets from their parents, whoever that may be at the time. 

Parents teach them how to ask for things correctly.  Adults must already know how to correctly get the things that they need and want.  They must have the attitude of always being in position to lend money,  not of always needing to borrow it.  They must be good stewards of what comes into their hands. Taking care of your needs is the beginning to building an attitude of abundance that leads to the ability to be able to be the lender not the borrower. It is difficult to get people to help you when they can see that you have not been a good steward over what you have. 

Why should they make the sacrifices they need to make to take care of their show stoppers and then let a person that does not pull from their assets?  Most of the time, they will not help you continually. You may get help one or two times but eventually they will say no and at that point you must learn how to make first things first in your life, especially your finances.

Growing Up Types -- Integrity

CV White Quote: (Learn to manage pressure points correctly and the pressure will work for you not against you)

Adult Wisdom – Sometimes adults make bad decisions when they are in desperate need of money. They may come up with a dishonest scheme to get some money quickly, but when they do that the money they get dwindles away. It is better to come up with an honest way to increase your income because when you gather money honestly little by little it grows. It takes time for the Monarch butterflies to migrate to a warmer climate that is 2,500 miles away each year. They can only get there little by little; and trying to take a short cut by hitching a ride on something else that flies faster will cause them not to be at the right location. They will get somewhere faster but they will not be at the right place because only they know the location of the particular tree that they need. They use the same tree every year therefore, they do not need to be thousands of miles in the wrong direction and miss finding the correct tree. When that happens they lose time and if that is you then you lose that dishonest money. So gather your money honestly a little at a time and watch it grow.