Do
what you want taught!
CV White Quote: “If I see you doing
something that works and I need that to operate in my life, you have just
taught me a good lesson.
Most of the time teaching is done by
talking to people and that is one way to learn but the best lessons are learned
by watching what people do. If you want
to know the truth about a person just watch what they do. Also, if you watch
long enough you may see something that is working well in their lives and then
you can get the same result if you do what they do to get that result. But you
do not have to spend the time that they spent to learn to do it.
One of the things that parents in my
generation use to say to us their children, “you do what I say, not what I do”,
but sometimes they would do opposite of what they said to do. It could have been something good or bad, it
did not matter to us. We consistently did what they said while they were
watching. However, when it came to setting a pattern for our adult life, we did
what they did and not what they said to do because that was what we saw working
in their lives good or bad. And if it was OK for them, it was OK for us.
As an adult, you have to understand that
what you do has a great impact on people and will influence people more often
than what you say. For instance, it you
tell people that you lead (family, work or friends) that they have to be on
time because of a time agreement that was made or because an event that starts
at a particular time and you are never on time for anything nor do you keep
your appointments that you personally make by being on time they are not going
to listen to you. More than likely, they
will be late arriving to appointments because they see that it was not
important enough for you to be on time so why should they have a problem with
anyone about being late.
These is a hint to adults that want to
teach a good lesson to children or adults, say and do what you want learned and
you will usually get the desired results.
Let what you say be what you do and that will be taught by saying and
doing. This is a stronger lesson than just doing.
Adult
Wisdom – Do not become angry quickly. Anger in itself does not cause problems
but what you say and do when you are angry will causes big problems. Everyone
should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry. I have never
seen an angry butterfly. I have seen angry insects but never a angry butterfly.
Adult Wisdom – If possible do not use hot harsh
words when talking to people because harsh words stir up anger. Have you ever
watched a butterfly fly or land then you know how peaceful they are.
Adult Wisdom – Blaming other people for your
problems will keep the problems around. Do you know people that always blame other people for their problems? Nothing that happens to them is ever their fault, they won't admit to being any part of the problem. The Monarch butterfly has to migrates 2500 miles in the winter to Mexico or California for two reasons. They
cannot withstand freezing weather in the northern and central continental
climates in the winter. Also, the larval food plants does not grow in Mexico or California, so the spring generation must fly back north to places where the
plants are plentiful. If this butterfly decides not to migrate because they do
not want to travel 2500 miles one way in the winter and another 2500 miles back
in the spring, that decision will cause them to start to die of the cold temperatures in their northern feeding grounds or of starvation in the warm climate of Mexico or California. Whose
fault is that? If a butterfly want to be successful in its reproduction process it have to take the responsibility of its decisions. Either one of these decisions can be disaster or life for them, therefore they must make the decision to migrate to survive. If they do not they cannot blame anyone but themselves for the results. Blaming other people is immature and you cannot get adult results with immature actions.