Growing Up Types: Do what you want taught!

Do what you want taught!

 CV White Quote: “If I see you doing something that works and I need that to operate in my life, you have just taught me a good lesson.

Most of the time teaching is done by talking to people and that is one way to learn but the best lessons are learned by watching what people do.  If you want to know the truth about a person just watch what they do. Also, if you watch long enough you may see something that is working well in their lives and then you can get the same result if you do what they do to get that result. But you do not have to spend the time that they spent to learn to do it.

One of the things that parents in my generation use to say to us their children, “you do what I say, not what I do”, but sometimes they would do opposite of what they said to do.  It could have been something good or bad, it did not matter to us. We consistently did what they said while they were watching. However, when it came to setting a pattern for our adult life, we did what they did and not what they said to do because that was what we saw working in their lives good or bad. And if it was OK for them, it was OK for us.

As an adult, you have to understand that what you do has a great impact on people and will influence people more often than what you say.  For instance, it you tell people that you lead (family, work or friends) that they have to be on time because of a time agreement that was made or because an event that starts at a particular time and you are never on time for anything nor do you keep your appointments that you personally make by being on time they are not going to listen to you.  More than likely, they will be late arriving to appointments because they see that it was not important enough for you to be on time so why should they have a problem with anyone about being late.

These is a hint to adults that want to teach a good lesson to children or adults, say and do what you want learned and you will usually get the desired results.  Let what you say be what you do and that will be taught by saying and doing. This is a stronger lesson than just doing.