Growing Up Types: Haste Makes Waste

Adult Wisdom – Do not be in a hurry to make major decisions in your life. Take your time, research the issue and weight the things that would want you to say yes and the things that would make you want to say no, and then consider what you can handle best. Once you have made the decision do not get angry when the issues that you knew would come up that do not agree with what you want (those things that made you consider saying no). For example do not choose a ski vacation just because it looks good on television if you know you hate winter, do not select a car with a color you know that you hate just because the price is what you like unless you plan to paint the car (you may not want to change the paint because that lowers the value of the car) or selecting relationships with people that you think that you are going to change their ways that you do not like. Have you ever seen a butterfly in a hurry, some of them travel very slowly, you can catch them most of the time if you watch them closely. They are not concerned about what happens other than getting to their expected end. Take your time and make a decision that you can live with.

Growing Up Types – When does No mean Yes?

"Adult Wisdom – Adults must learn to say no when no is appropriate. Many times people say yes to things that they do not want to do. They may even hate to do what they said yes to. Often times they don’t want to hurt some ones feelings or they may be afraid of losing a friend. Sometimes it’s wanting to be loved and other times it’s wanting to be a part of a peer group. But whatever the reason let your yes be yes and your no be no because you can never say yes and mean it if you continue to say yes when you really mean no."

Growing Up Types – Solve Disputes – How?

Adult Wisdom – If you are an adult making childish decisions you will get into situations that are troublesome and you won’t even know how you got there. An example of a childish decision is letting someone lead you into physically fighting with them. Children do that and have very little problems if they are under a certain age, however adults may end up in the court system or even in jail.... If that happens they will have trouble getting certain jobs or opportunities because of the legal troubles or their criminal records. Not to mention getting seriously hurt, maimed or maybe killed. Thousands of Monarch butterflies fly to their over wintering site together, they cannot afford to be fighting that would cause serious problems. Children do not think about the consequences of what they do necessarily, but adults must think about the consequences. It is wisdom not to let your emotions and other people cause you to make juvenile decisions, now that you are an adult put away childish thinking.

Growing Up Types – Are You Hurting You

Adult Wisdom – Some people know not to do things to hurt other people but they lack adult wisdom not to do things to hurt themselves. For instance, if you are on your job and you get mistreated by your supervisor, it is not wisdom to get angry and tell them off especially if they have the ability and fire you. If you do not have any recourse to get help remember that the reason you are there is to earn pay. Therefore, look for and find another job before you blow up at you supervisor or just quit the job you have. If someone chooses to disrespect, hurt or mistreat you do not help them do it, they can do a good job of that all by themselves. If a company wants to fire you and you have done nothing to cause that to happen to you, don’t help them by being late to work, too long lunch periods or just breaking company rules. Look for other employment and while they continue to try to get you out you have been proactive and found a place where you can go and continue to get paid. Sometimes people think that if they hurt themselves they can get another person’s attention but you are worth more than you can ever imagine so be good to you. If you can’t get someone’s attention by just being you it is their loss.

Growing Up Types – Plan of Goals of Life

Adult Wisdom – Have a plan for your life. Make it in increments of five or ten years. Where do you want to be in five or ten years? If you don’t have a plan you will never know if you made it. Butterflies always have a plan, it is the same plan but it always works and they know when they get there."

Growing Up Types – Wait to speak –

 Adult Wisdom – Do not become angry quickly. Anger in itself does not cause problems but what you say and do when you are angry will causes big problems. Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry. I have never seen an angry butterfly. I have seen angry insects but never a angry butterfly.